Connie Gochenaur

This Series Was For Me

When attending a writer’s workshop, I heard an author say, ‘writing a book is like birthing a baby.’  And now, even after just  17,000 words, I get that.  I have had … Continue reading

October 31, 2017 · 4 Comments

We Should Be Better Prepared

As I sit here at my keys, thinking about the last couple of posts I need to write for this 31 Days series, my fingers are silent.  I promised to … Continue reading

October 30, 2017 · 2 Comments

61 Lessons from 31 Days of Searching to Belong

Write 31 Days Challenge:  Do You Belong Top Quotes & Highlights I knew when I chose this topic that I would not be able to explore the depths of the … Continue reading

October 29, 2017 · 2 Comments

I Am Like Them and They Are Like Me

Today is Day #28 in this Write 31 Day challenge, Do You Belong, and I’ve invited a friend to speak in my place.  I first met Elizabeth Murphy two years … Continue reading

October 28, 2017 · Leave a comment

25 Ways to not BE-long

Be the center of attention Be a conversation stealer Be thinking of your answer Be a bad listener Be thinking about yourself because it’s ALL about you Be bossy Be … Continue reading

October 27, 2017 · Leave a comment

It’s Good To Be Me

One day I had lunch with an old friend, and we were catching up with everything our young adult “children” were doing.  We had been close when our children were … Continue reading

October 26, 2017 · Leave a comment

Afraid To Be Me

Is fitting in the same as belonging?  It might be interesting to “unpack that bag” and see what we find.  I’ve quoted Brene’ Brown several times during this series, but … Continue reading

October 25, 2017 · Leave a comment

Let’s Buy Some Whimsical Pillows

As we look around and search for our place of belonging, the world can be a very confusing place.  How can we find a place to belong when people are … Continue reading

October 24, 2017 · Leave a comment

Get Out There and Meet REAL People

This past summer, I attended a writers/speakers conference in Grand Rapids.  Throughout the two days duration of the conference, we were able to schedule one-on-one conversations with authors, speakers, editors, … Continue reading

October 23, 2017 · 4 Comments

It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood

My grandson loves an app called Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.  Do you recall that name?  It’s a spin-off from Mister Roger’s Neighborhood (1968-2001) hosted by the endearing Fred Rogers.  Funny – … Continue reading

October 22, 2017 · Leave a comment

What Makes You Tick?

Recently I was challenged to define my core values.  I mean really define them.  Put them on paper, and explain in detail why they define me.  I’m not good at … Continue reading

October 21, 2017 · 2 Comments

12 Tips To Make That New City Your City

I read recently about a woman who was raised in Houston, and knew that city like the back of her hand.  A job promotion moved her family to Dallas, and … Continue reading

October 20, 2017 · Leave a comment

Don’t Steal Someone Else’s Perfect Place

I walked into the church cafe, and as I poured my coffee, I saw a woman who is normally in my small group on Sunday mornings.  “Hey,” I said, “we … Continue reading

October 19, 2017 · 1 Comment

Everyone Loves Good Fruit

You will know them by their fruits. Matthew 7:16       The Fruit of The Spirit   As I continue with this series, Do You Belong, I am reminded … Continue reading

October 18, 2017 · Leave a comment

Maybe Kindness is Within Our Reach

I typed “bullying” into the search engine on YouTube and over 9 million videos were listed.  9,360,000.  I just sat there and looked at that number.  Next I turned to … Continue reading

October 17, 2017 · Leave a comment

Where Shame, Mercy and Grace Collide

Shame.  Mercy.  Grace. How do all these words tie together?  And do they have anything to do with our sense of belonging? These are deep concepts that are hard to … Continue reading

October 16, 2017 · 1 Comment

When Your People and Your Place Are New to You

During this two day hiatus from the Write 31 Days challenge, I’d like to share two books that are valuable resources if your place of belonging has actually changed to a … Continue reading

October 15, 2017 · Leave a comment

Once You Are Real

On this 14th day of the Write 31 Day challenge, I am sharing a quote from Margery Williams Bianco’s book.  It is a wonderful reminder that it is always easier … Continue reading

October 14, 2017 · Leave a comment

Does That Shame Really Belong in Your Baggage?

When I was a sophomore in high school, a boy decided a good nick-name for me would be Tank.  That’s right, Tank.  Just what every 15 year-old girl wants to … Continue reading

October 13, 2017 · 4 Comments

Its Time To Put On Our Capes and Be Brave

I’m working on being brave.  I’m working on my courage.  I want to be a superhero. My granddaughter is one of my superheroes.  She can see the kids on the … Continue reading

October 12, 2017 · 10 Comments

I Tend To Hug The Wall

You don’t have to search long to find a discussion about the differences between introverts and extroverts.  It’s a popular theme of many blog posts and articles.  Even Facebook has … Continue reading

October 11, 2017 · 2 Comments

Her Head Knows, But Her Heart

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about this blog post.  And to be honest, I thought the best thing to do was to just delete the … Continue reading

October 10, 2017 · 3 Comments

I Am Never Enough

I am finally typing.  I’ve been resisting all morning.  Finding so many ways to procrastinate.  Facebook.  Online shopping.  Email.  What else can I find to do before I hit the … Continue reading

October 9, 2017 · 2 Comments

It Wasn’t Ever Going To Be My Home

The table was cluttered with scraps of colorful fabric and long lengths of ribbon.  Thread clung to my shirt and littered the floor.  I am a messy seamstress.   In the … Continue reading

October 8, 2017 · 3 Comments

If We’re Honest

Sometimes we build the walls that keep us from fitting in.  Walls nobody can get through. Sometimes we’re pretending to be somebody we’re not. Only when we are transparent enough … Continue reading

October 7, 2017 · 1 Comment

All I Know Is I’m Not Home Yet

On Day 2 of this 31 day writing challenge, the title of my post was, This is NOT Where I Belong.  Ever since that post, I can’t get this song … Continue reading

October 6, 2017 · 2 Comments

Is Green Acres the Place for Me?

Recently a new friend, a mentor actually, confidently said, “I have a deep need to belong”. My first thought was, ‘Wow, did she just say that out loud?’ I, too, … Continue reading

October 5, 2017 · 6 Comments

The Pages of The Story Keep Turning

So here we are, real characters in this ‘grand epic’, this amazing story of God’s.  But do you ever feel like you didn’t get here at the first roll call?  … Continue reading

October 4, 2017 · 4 Comments

A Grand Epic

When I am looking for a good summer book to read, I like to find a nice long novel.  I want to hold the actual book in my hand, and … Continue reading

October 3, 2017 · 2 Comments

This is NOT Where I Belong

Adam and Eve were placed into the Garden of Eden.  It was where they belonged.  One wrong decision changed their lives, and set them on a different course.  I left … Continue reading

October 2, 2017 · 2 Comments

Created Into Community

Right from the get-go, man had community. Once upon a time there was a man named Adam and…  well, the animals.   That’s a community, right? There is a bit more … Continue reading

October 1, 2017 · 1 Comment

Like Any Good Exercise, Practice Makes Perfect: Write 31 Days

Day 31 of 31 Days of JOY.   Am I going to Grumble?  Or Trust? When I go back and count, I only posted 13 days out of the 31!  … Continue reading

October 31, 2015 · Leave a comment

“A Babushka Pirate Named Maude”

A babushka pirate named Maude.  What? I cannot even begin to tell you the meaning behind the title of this post. Well, let’s see… It is the last comment of a group … Continue reading

October 24, 2015 · 3 Comments

The Best Gifts Don’t Come With a Barcode: Write 31 Days

I watch my grandchildren 2 days a week while their Mama works.  I love knowing her sweet babies in such an intimate way, and I enjoy keeping them.  By allowing me to care for her kiddos, … Continue reading

October 21, 2015 · Leave a comment

Celebrating the Farmer In My House: Write 31 Days

NATIONAL FARMER’S DAY Oops, I missed National Farmer’s Day.   Did you?  It was 3 days ago.  I’m sure I’m not alone as most of us didn’t know October 12 was … Continue reading

October 15, 2015 · Leave a comment

I Still Get To Eat Dinner With My Mom: Write 31 Days

Write 31 Days I walked into the hospital room, and was shocked by what I saw.  A old lady lie in the bed, mouth open, eyes rolled up toward the … Continue reading

October 14, 2015 · 1 Comment

She Will Write And She Will Find Her Voice: Write 31 Days

Write 31 Days (well 26 Days, maybe). “You cannot do this.  You have nothing to say.”  Those are the words she heard over and over again in her head.  They … Continue reading

October 13, 2015 · 2 Comments

Write 31 Days: Should I Write or Clean My House?

Write 31 Days. I’m going to take a hiatus tonight from my theme of 31 Days of JOY.   And as I am heading into a busy weekend, and may not … Continue reading

October 10, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Blessed Are Those Who Mourn

Write 31 Days. I’ve been writing recently about grumbling, and the idea that trust and grumbling are opposites. We can’t trust God and then grumble about what He has laid before us, … Continue reading

October 8, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Comparisons Always Change Our Focus

Write 31 Days.  Am I trusting God?  Or does my complaining and grumbling show my unbelief? My next stop during this month of no grumbling took me to the book of Numbers … Continue reading

October 7, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Breathe, Relax, And Let God Be God

31 days of JOY A friend of mine is struggling as  one of her adult children is going through something right now that is breaking her heart.  We sat over a cup of … Continue reading

October 6, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Walk Confidently Away From Your Egypt

31 Days of JOY — that is my challenge.  Grumble or Trust? When I began this challenge, it wasn’t my intention to go through the Bible, looking for every mention of grumble, … Continue reading

October 5, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Did God Bring Us Here to Die?

31 days of JOY — Grumble or Trust? The Hebrew’s exodus out of Egypt is a very well-known Bible story.  It makes for a great cast of characters in children’s … Continue reading

October 2, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Two Choices: Grumble or Trust

I grumble. I don’t want to be a grumbler. But I am. Evidently. As a woman who looks for Divine intervention in her life, I read my Bible, study my Bible … Continue reading

October 1, 2015 · 2 Comments

Hebrews 10:35-36

Do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have a need of perseverance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.

Jeremiah 29:11-13

I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. You will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of your heart.

2 Chronicles 7:14

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.