Connie Gochenaur

Don’t Steal Someone Else’s Perfect Place

I walked into the church cafe, and as I poured my coffee, I saw a woman who is normally in my small group on Sunday mornings.  “Hey,” I said, “we … Continue reading

October 19, 2017 · Leave a comment

Everyone Loves Good Fruit

You will know them by their fruits. Matthew 7:16       The Fruit of The Spirit   As I continue with this series, Do You Belong, I am reminded … Continue reading

October 18, 2017 · Leave a comment

Maybe Kindness is Within Our Reach

I typed “bullying” into the search engine on YouTube and over 9 million videos were listed.  9,360,000.  I just sat there and looked at that number.  Next I turned to … Continue reading

October 17, 2017 · Leave a comment

Where Shame, Mercy and Grace Collide

Shame.  Mercy.  Grace. How do all these words tie together?  And do they have anything to do with our sense of belonging? These are deep concepts that are hard to … Continue reading

October 16, 2017 · 1 Comment

When Your People and Your Place Are New to You

During this two day hiatus from the Write 31 Days challenge, I’d like to share two books that are valuable resources if your place of belonging has actually changed to a … Continue reading

October 15, 2017 · Leave a comment

Once You Are Real

On this 14th day of the Write 31 Day challenge, I am sharing a quote from Margery Williams Bianco’s book.  It is a wonderful reminder that it is always easier … Continue reading

October 14, 2017 · Leave a comment

Does That Shame Really Belong in Your Baggage?

When I was a sophomore in high school, a boy decided a good nick-name for me would be Tank.  That’s right, Tank.  Just what every 15 year-old girl wants to … Continue reading

October 13, 2017 · 3 Comments

Its Time To Put On Our Capes and Be Brave

I’m working on being brave.  I’m working on my courage.  I want to be a superhero. My granddaughter is one of my superheroes.  She can see the kids on the … Continue reading

October 12, 2017 · 9 Comments

I Tend To Hug The Wall

You don’t have to search long to find a discussion about the differences between introverts and extroverts.  It’s a popular theme of many blog posts and articles.  Even Facebook has … Continue reading

October 11, 2017 · 1 Comment

Her Head Knows, But Her Heart

I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about this blog post.  And to be honest, I thought the best thing to do was to just delete the … Continue reading

October 10, 2017 · 3 Comments

I Am Never Enough

I am finally typing.  I’ve been resisting all morning.  Finding so many ways to procrastinate.  Facebook.  Online shopping.  Email.  What else can I find to do before I hit the … Continue reading

October 9, 2017 · 2 Comments

It Wasn’t Ever Going To Be My Home

The table was cluttered with scraps of colorful fabric and long lengths of ribbon.  Thread clung to my shirt and littered the floor.  I am a messy seamstress.   In the … Continue reading

October 8, 2017 · 1 Comment

If We’re Honest

Sometimes we build the walls that keep us from fitting in.  Walls nobody can get through. Sometimes we’re pretending to be somebody we’re not. Only when we are transparent enough … Continue reading

October 7, 2017 · Leave a comment

All I Know Is I’m Not Home Yet

On Day 2 of this 31 day writing challenge, the title of my post was, This is NOT Where I Belong.  Ever since that post, I can’t get this song … Continue reading

October 6, 2017 · 2 Comments

Is Green Acres the Place for Me?

Recently a new friend, a mentor actually, confidently said, “I have a deep need to belong”. My first thought was, ‘Wow, did she just say that out loud?’ I, too, … Continue reading

October 5, 2017 · 5 Comments

The Pages of The Story Keep Turning

So here we are, real characters in this ‘grand epic’, this amazing story of God’s.  But do you ever feel like you didn’t get here at the first roll call?  … Continue reading

October 4, 2017 · 4 Comments

A Grand Epic

When I am looking for a good summer book to read, I like to find a nice long novel.  I want to hold the actual book in my hand, and … Continue reading

October 3, 2017 · 2 Comments

This is NOT Where I Belong

Adam and Eve were placed into the Garden of Eden.  It was where they belonged.  One wrong decision changed their lives, and set them on a different course.  I left … Continue reading

October 2, 2017 · 2 Comments

Created Into Community

Right from the get-go, man had community. Once upon a time there was a man named Adam and…  well, the animals.   That’s a community, right? There is a bit more … Continue reading

October 1, 2017 · 1 Comment

“Follow Me” Was Coined Long Before Twitter

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.  Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks, or the church … Continue reading

September 23, 2017 · Leave a comment

Children Feeding Children – A Short Story

It was an early Saturday morning in September, and Aubrey, Gage, and Levi were eager to get inside the building. Each of them carried a small plastic baggie filled with … Continue reading

August 19, 2017 · Leave a comment

Marriage Is About Pulling the Weeds in Your Own Garden

I read an article last night about yet another prominent Christian woman ending her marriage after 25 years. This woman has a world renown ministry.  She writes books and speaks … Continue reading

June 16, 2017 · 1 Comment

What’s In A Name?

Have you been to one of those “gender reveal” parties recently? They seem to be popping up on social media almost daily.   Couples use pink or blue props, usually … Continue reading

May 27, 2017 · Leave a comment

Chase Fear Away By Remembering God’s Faithfulness

Always about this time every year, I begin to get nervous about our upcoming  FMSC MobilePack.  It’s kind of like planning a wedding — so many details!  And if everyone … Continue reading

August 14, 2016 · Leave a comment

Releasing Ownership — It’s Not About Me (Meals From Michiana)

I pulled my car into the parking lot for our first FMSC Prayer Walk of this year.  A Walk for our 7th Feed My Starving Children Mobilepack.  We, the core … Continue reading

August 6, 2016 · Leave a comment

Moving Past How Are You, I’m Fine.

I’ve been meeting with a group of women from my church over the past several months as part of a Women’s Leadership Team.  What does the woman of 2016 want? … Continue reading

June 30, 2016 · Leave a comment

Community Team Walks and Prays For Starving Children – Meals From Michiana

We are now in the early stages of planning our 7th local Feed My Starving Children MobilePack, Meals From Michiana.  I became the coordinator for this event in our Northern … Continue reading

April 20, 2016 · Leave a comment

Like Any Good Exercise, Practice Makes Perfect: Write 31 Days

Day 31 of 31 Days of JOY.   Am I going to Grumble?  Or Trust? When I go back and count, I only posted 13 days out of the 31!  … Continue reading

October 31, 2015 · Leave a comment

The Best Gifts Don’t Come With a Barcode: Write 31 Days

I watch my grandchildren 2 days a week while their Mama works.  I love knowing her sweet babies in such an intimate way, and I enjoy keeping them.  By allowing me to care for her kiddos, … Continue reading

October 21, 2015 · Leave a comment

She Will Write And She Will Find Her Voice: Write 31 Days

Write 31 Days (well 26 Days, maybe). “You cannot do this.  You have nothing to say.”  Those are the words she heard over and over again in her head.  They … Continue reading

October 13, 2015 · 2 Comments

Write 31 Days: Should I Write or Clean My House?

Write 31 Days. I’m going to take a hiatus tonight from my theme of 31 Days of JOY.   And as I am heading into a busy weekend, and may not … Continue reading

October 10, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Blessed Are Those Who Mourn

Write 31 Days. I’ve been writing recently about grumbling, and the idea that trust and grumbling are opposites. We can’t trust God and then grumble about what He has laid before us, … Continue reading

October 8, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Comparisons Always Change Our Focus

Write 31 Days.  Am I trusting God?  Or does my complaining and grumbling show my unbelief? My next stop during this month of no grumbling took me to the book of Numbers … Continue reading

October 7, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Breathe, Relax, And Let God Be God

31 days of JOY A friend of mine is struggling as  one of her adult children is going through something right now that is breaking her heart.  We sat over a cup of … Continue reading

October 6, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Walk Confidently Away From Your Egypt

31 Days of JOY — that is my challenge.  Grumble or Trust? When I began this challenge, it wasn’t my intention to go through the Bible, looking for every mention of grumble, … Continue reading

October 5, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Did God Bring Us Here to Die?

31 days of JOY — Grumble or Trust? The Hebrew’s exodus out of Egypt is a very well-known Bible story.  It makes for a great cast of characters in children’s … Continue reading

October 2, 2015 · Leave a comment

Write 31 Days: Two Choices: Grumble or Trust

I grumble. I don’t want to be a grumbler. But I am. Evidently. As a woman who looks for Divine intervention in her life, I read my Bible, study my Bible … Continue reading

October 1, 2015 · 2 Comments

Packing “Manna” locally to Save Children Around the World

Did you know over two million children die every single year from starvation?  2,000,000!   That’s a really big number.  I’m not even sure I can “see” that number, can you?  … Continue reading

August 20, 2015 · Leave a comment

Soaring, Part 2 of Finding My Joy

If you’re just joining me, I hope you take the time to read the previous post where I expressed my struggle to find joy in my Christian walk.    I think … Continue reading

August 12, 2015 · 1 Comment

“Being a Christian Is Work” Part 1 of Finding My Joy

Hey there!  Do you ever just feel kind of bogged down in the nitty-gritty of life?  Just trying to make it through the day?  Even as you’re checking things off … Continue reading

August 11, 2015 · 1 Comment

Radiant Like Moses

“Connie, what have you been up to?  Your face is radiant like Moses!” That is how my Pastor greeted me on Sunday morning — after Speak Up Conference.  I thought it was … Continue reading

July 29, 2015 · 5 Comments

Meals From Michiana — Crisis in Haiti!

We are about 10 weeks out from our 6th annual Feed My Starving Children MobilePack.  That sounds like a long time, but really, we have a whole community to canvas … Continue reading

July 16, 2015 · Leave a comment

Meals From Michiana!

It all started with a phone call from our daughter who had recently taken a job in Chicago.  ‘Dad, you should see what we are doing at our church!  You … Continue reading

June 27, 2015 · Leave a comment

25 Reasons Why We’ve Made It 41 Years

We just celebrated 41 years of marriage.  That’s a very long time.  We married young, too young really, but somehow we’ve made it work.  Thinking about this, I jotted down … Continue reading

June 18, 2015 · 1 Comment

To My Sister’s Daughter…

I know you lost your Mama way too soon.  You weren’t ready to let her go.  The cancer was ugly and quick.  You barely had time to say good-bye.   It was over … Continue reading

May 17, 2015 · 1 Comment

Is Following After the Good Enough?

“Following” along with 5 Minute Friday today with the word prompt:  Follow Go — 5 minutes As a Christian woman, I try to follow after good things in my life.  … Continue reading

May 15, 2015 · 4 Comments

Eden Needs Gethsemane

As I look out over my backyard on this dreary, rainy spring day, I see several gardens that need attention.  I wish it was 20 degrees warmer and sunny today.  This … Continue reading

April 2, 2015 · 1 Comment

Chasing the Illusion of Peace

My little 11 month old grandson is a beautiful baby, no bias on my part (smile).  He is a mild-mannered, easy-going child.  The kind of baby you can love on, … Continue reading

October 11, 2014 · 2 Comments

Motherhood Is Like A Dance: Step In, Step back, Step Out, Step In

Thoughts about mothers and daughters and their relationships consume me these days.  Motherhood is something most of us ask for and wish for; we enter willingly and with anticipation.   We … Continue reading

August 4, 2014 · 2 Comments

World Blog Tour….Here I Come!

A dear, sweet friend of mine, Ingrid Lochamire, invited me to do a World Blog Tour.  The idea intrigued and terrified me.   Ingrid is an inspiration and encourager to me … Continue reading

August 4, 2014 · 2 Comments

Hebrews 10:35-36

Do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have a need of perseverance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.

Jeremiah 29:11-13

I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. You will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all of your heart.

2 Chronicles 7:14

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land.