Connie Gochenaur

Its Time To Put On Our Capes and Be Brave

I’m working on being brave.  I’m working on my courage.  I want to be a superhero.

My granddaughter is one of my superheroes.  She can see the kids on the fringe.  She is sensitive like that.  She knows when girls aren’t fitting in.  About a month ago, a new girl showed up at her youth group.  When Aubrey noticed the girl, she guided her to the welcome center to help her register and get a name tag.  Aubrey stayed with her the rest of the evening.  That same evening, two other girls were also new to youth group.  They were a bit older than Aubrey, and would have been in a different section, but no one welcomed them.  No one showed them how or where to register.  They were left to fend for themselves.  Now 4 weeks later?  Bre’s new friend was there last night, and has come back every week.  But the two other girls didn’t come back the following week or the next.  They didn’t find their people so they didn’t bother to come back at all.

Kids that may never find Jesus.

Walking into a roomful of strangers is scary.  It makes us vulnerable.  It’s easier for me to hold back and “hug the wall.”  Keep to myself.  But…

Someone may never find connection… encouragement…  strength… or Jesus.

We need each other to find our way in this crazy world.  To find our place and our people.  Our tribe.

In her book, Daring Greatly, Brene’ Brown says, “When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives, and that nothing is as dangerous, uncomfortable, or hurtful as standing on the outside looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena.”

To step out of our comfort zone, and reach out to others is courageous.  And it’s uncomfortable.   It’s one of the hardest things to do.  It seems dangerous.  And vulnerable.  And truthful.  And honest.

But it’s time to take the risk.  It’s time to put on our capes.


So if you’re the one on the outside looking in, put on your cape and be brave.  Be courageous and walk boldly in to find your people.  Remember the phrase from yesterday’s post, “There you are.”  Dare greatly in those three words.

And if you’re one of the lucky ones, and you’ve already found your tribe, then look beyond your people.  Look to the fringe.  People are there.  Do you see them?

Let’s put on our capes, and be brave. 

Let’s go be superheroes.

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10 comments on “Its Time To Put On Our Capes and Be Brave

  1. debbieputman
    October 13, 2017

    Great wisdom here. I’m dusting off my cape!

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  2. thejoyousfamily
    October 13, 2017

    i love capes! they give you a since of loftiness you need to be brave. As the mother of boys we need to be brave in so many areas. How do we spend more time sharing the Jesus Narrative with our family and those we are in community with- with our capes flying!

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    • Connie
      October 13, 2017

      Yes! That’s right. Let’s be brave. Thanks for commenting.


  3. heavenlyrevelationsfromdaddy
    October 13, 2017

    I have been the visitor to youth group and then the leader years later. Sound like to me that you passed down the inate ability for your granddaughter to show love because it has impacted you so much. Where do you think she gets that from? Jesus has marked your DNA and is showing you how great the generational line is to carry forth His message. Go in power, do not deny it for your heritage is Christ and He will always amaze.

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    • Connie
      October 14, 2017

      I would love to think that some of my granddaughter’s sweetness comes from me. Thank you for reading — and commenting!

      Liked by 1 person

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  5. Bri
    October 14, 2017

    This is beautiful ❤. As someone who feels like I notice those “on the fringe” easier than some, but feels like others are better equiped to make them comfortable, this story of your granddaughter is convicting and encouraging. How precious that she allowed the Lord to use her in this girl’s life! Thank you for sharing ❤.
    Bri from

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    • Connie
      October 14, 2017

      Bri, My granddaughter is teaching me many lessons. Thank you for your kinds words.


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Hebrews 10:35-36

Do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have a need of perseverance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.

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2 Chronicles 7:14

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